How to Glow up

Steps we designed that actually work.

1) Less is more.

When you’re not certain what serves you best—keep it simple first. With outfits, self-care, mindset, relationships, hobbies: don’t try to fix and upgrade everything at once. Don’t carry an old and new identity at the same time. Do yourself a favor—cleanse, then bring in new routines, styles, and experiments slowly but surely.
Get rid of clothes that are too tight, small, shrunken, or irrelevant. Donate funky prints and pieces that don’t match the persona you’re choosing to build. Shoes that are uncomfortable or worn just once, bags that don’t excite you, and anything collecting dust—flip, donate, resell, gift.
Stick to well-tailored fundamentals and your core palette (earth tones or your true favorites): a great shirt, classy jeans, timeless heels, clean sneakers, multipurpose dresses. Don’t chase hype, don’t copy celebrities blindly, and don’t be desperate for things unless they’re smart investments. It’s better to have a few truly great luxury pieces than a pile of items with no value.
Don’t overcomplicate hair, nails, and makeup. Enhance naturally to the max; layer later.
It is cheaper to look expensive. I repeat: it is usually cheaper to look expensive—because you buy one good thing for the long ride instead of watering down your look with low-quality pieces that expire fast.

2) Claim your new identity.

I respect healing and “focus on yourself” seasons, the soft princess mornings, the trauma work—yes. But it can sound like an endless process with a blurred deadline. You need results. Shortcut: decide who you are now. Choose your North Star—goddess, public figure, historical muse, graceful animal, fictional icon—and live up to the standards of that identity.
Sharper decisions get easier when you know who you want to be and what story you’re writing. Transformation and healing happen along the way. If you slip, return to acting from your new identity. The old one will try to drag you back, but the more pages you’re writing the way you want, the more the book becomes about what you want.

3) Build your inner temple (consistency anchor).

Pick something you can consistently do—yoga, dance class, painting, writing, tennis. Choose what’s realistically sustainable and interesting for a while. You can switch in a couple of months; no panic. What could you do even on a bad day, low energy, not-in-the-mood? What can you do on autopilot? Start with that.
Make it easy for yourself: schedule in advance, book, organize, automate, put it on the calendar, keep the bag or supplies ready. Just keep doing it. Self-respect and self-confidence grow when you become the person you can rely on—when you have a history of disciplined decisions, even small ones.

4) Layer up the level-up.

You can always add more habits, signature pieces, and life upgrades—steadily, step by step. Changing too much at once feels radical, harsh, and anxiety-inducing. It can make you feel like a “difficult case” that needs total overhaul. Don’t overwhelm yourself; it’s not that deep. The thought of change is the biggest change already. Everything else is small execution steps.
Choose smart shortcuts, delegate, automate, ask for help, stay open to growth—and you won’t have “problems,” you’ll have solution after solution.

5) If something feels off—seek help.

If mental health, trauma, pain, or environment seem to be holding you back, the best Glowdess move is to reach for solutions—like a queen CEO protecting the company’s growth. Be open to hiring specialists who can help. Be flexible with uncomfortable new methods that actually move the needle. Be open-minded and absorb what could be different, and you’ll see: many things you thought you must carry are just useless blockers.
Don’t be the person who chooses excuses over growth. Step into change before you’re ready—that’s how you become ready. There are people who know solutions; find them, and find yours with their help or guidance.

And you’ll be more than fine. I promise.