Glowdess High-Value Habits

Yeah, I know, You don't like to hear about the things you think you already good at. My goal is to remind you of fundamentals, that upgrade you first, and everything around follows. There is no ceiling for refinement.

Here is some skills and habits I believe would make you stand out as a woman in your man's life:

1. Choose the right man (or none). Everything below would not be applicable to the wrong unreliable unhealthy male figure. How do you know he is the right one? You don't always. So you judge by consistency and actions, by how he meets your standards, by your inner sense of safety., you test the waters step by step and withdraw your efforts and presence when water seems off. Give consequences and rewards.

2. Own your role - the feminine advantage. Nurturing, seductive, feminine - no-one else can provide that but woman. Let this guide your choices and behaviors when you're tempted to compete, prove a point, demand, command, mother or control. It will help you lean towards actions that have higher success of actually working for woman: soft power of suggestion, inspiring for upgrades, giving improvement ideas and so on. You'll stop bleeding against a wall, you'll find that you can gracefully move a mountain instead.

3. Practice genuine enjoyment and gratitude. Train yourself to feel and name what he does well. Always acknowledge effort. Don't overplay it or clap for bare minimum. Keep the rubber band gently tensed enough, standards make gratitude feel earned.

4. Think highly of him. (Unless he proves otherwise repeatedly). Assume excellence. Expect good decisions and royal level leadership. Let him subtly hear and feel that expectation. People rise to the image you hold of them. Real men want to meet and even exceed your standards.

5. This is a hard one. Ready? Be transparent. Sometimes they actually don't know. They have no idea what is it you want, what bothers you and so on. Learn to be transparent without turning it into an argument. Focus on what he can do, not a messy replay of what he didn't. Offer solutions. You want a little tip on how to be able to do so? Treat it as business. Prioritize the outcome over the emotional impulse. Soft voice, firm request.

6. Don't sacrifice your peace, fundamental believes and moral code, don't betray yourself regardless of what this person means to you. It will never worth it. You'll develop resentment that won't be possible to heal. Don't stick around someone who keeps you as a girlfriend for years, if what you want is marriage. Don't pretend to not want kids if family is what matters to you the most. Don't become convenient chameleon, don't shapeshift. Don't exhaust yourself by doing way too much or by doing what you strongly dislike. Be the woman you want to be and life will align to her.

I wish you grow and glow and ..

Don't worry about it !

xx Olha